Lemonades Out of Lemons

At some point in our life we reach at a certain level of certainty, that indeed life gives limits. And these limitations comes in different forms and often in a very unpredictable manner. These differences and its unpredictability gives lemons in our sores.

Lemon is impossible to eat, so does an old song says. And so it is in my life. This time I had a lot of lemon that is giving me so much pain and sourness in this existence. I call this chapter of my life as existential catastrophe. I posted this two words as my facebook 'what's on your mind' and a 'previous' friend asked about the meaning of this. Lemons. It simply means lemons in my existence.

These days I feel so alone. So helpless. And in so dire need of a friend. I had a lot of acquaintances. They call me friend but I don't consider them to be one. Until I met this person who really showed me what friendship really is. We were open to each other. We know every single detail of our lives. We shared stories and we share a lot of things in common. It was great. The experience of friendship.

During those moments I was happy that finally I found a friend. The ideal friend that one can read on books, magazines. The friend described on songs. A friend you can see on movies. One who taps your shoulder and would say it's alright. One who would spend time when you're lonely and would simply want a company. And best of all, one who still believes in yo while every one else doesn't. That was our friendship. And we both invested on that relationship bank account.

We had a misunderstanding. We talked. We reconciled. But our friendship was tainted. It's becoming sour, sour as the lemons. A bunch of lemons squeezed on a sore. Giving so much pain and anguish. And yes I allowed it to happen. With the feeling of hope I made every effort I could to restore that friendship. Yet every part of that effort failed.

I realized that those efforts were just efforts of squeezing more lemons on a wounded heart. And yes I should stop. Indeed I stopped. I stopped everything. I stopped seeing him, I stopped communicating, he made efforts to keep in touch though but again it was squeezing more lemons. So I stopped. Everything. In an instant. It was hard. I cried. I cried so hard. I spent sleepless nights. I spent hours of loneliness. It was just different. Incomplete.

With those times of loneliness I had this realization. That I have this opportunity to make lemonades out of lemons. With it, I was able to focus on my job. Give the best out of me for a goal. Meet old acquaintances which was left behind for a time. Spend time with my family, home and office. It was hard. I still feel the pain of losing somebody close. But I can't do anything about it. I can't continue squeezing that lemon.

For days I was alone. We both reached this far and I was left alone. Sad though but I have to move. And at last the sourness of that lemon was sweetened by the people surrounding me and the events taking place around me. And what a great taste it was, to sip on a lemonade made out of one's lemons in life.

To that friend I thank you for being a part of my existence. It was a nice phenomenon of friendship, unfortunately not lasting but simply to be experienced.

Yes I still taste a little bit of sourness of that lemonade but as they say it's the essence of our existence.

Farewell Facebook

I am signing out to facebook. I won't be joining the groups of Elijah Wood and Lady Gaga to raise a million dollar for HIV victims, no I'm not. Or maybe I can be a part of their campaign, but who would bother giving me a peso to raise for a fund. Jokingly aside, I am signing off for sentimental reasons.

I think it's about time for me to say goodbye to social networking sites and instead put on my efforts in establishing worthwhile blogs. Blogs would really encompass my thoughts. They allow me to critically think and express what I really desire to express. Not just merely sharing it out as a 'limited' status.. Sharing non-sense 'what's on my mind' and commenting on other's useless thoughts and simply putting themselves on limelight just to gain attention. Too late have I realized this.

Another thing is, I think I spend most of my time in facebook than spending time on reading books and writing blogs. Which hinders my thinking being to think. Instead of taking time in facebook, I should take time in more sensible things.

As to the issue of burning bridges... I should say that I needed to burn bridges and this is also a part of a step into renewal and concentration on what is really essential in human existence. For now, I burnt bridges behind me to let go of the things that I cannot change or attain move forward to attain my desires and aspirations.

Asked on when would I return to social networking..? hmmm... maybe by the time that I can get out from the compulsive need of attention from others and addiction to facebook itself. Then and maybe then would I be back you will see me again in fb.

As for now, I would give more attention to writing and reading sensible things. And at the same time spend most of my valued time in work.

Over a Cup of Coffee

After months of waiting, I finally reached the point where I need to leave this current job and shift into another career. In our workplace we have persons with whom we give our highest respect. This person is the most hated, most wished to die on a car accident, and perhaps dreamed on succumbing to illnesses when business reviews come and re-validation comes. Yet this person gives us inspiration, a drive to push us harder. Well this person happens to be the last person I heartily spoke of during my last official working day in my company, and it took place over a cup of coffee.

Every time mention my resignation to GX Intl. I always delight when people would tell me that I am very lucky that I was hired by SMB and be part of their company that offers good benefits and super nice compensation package. (When they say super it really means super nice!!) Not a single person would not commend the company's compensation and its reputation as a 'big' company. Well those were the commentaries of people who are not really aware of big picture. Well here are some points my 'big' boss gave and left a mark in me for me to be successful in this field of sales and marketing.

Creativity:
We need to be creative in this kind of job. We need to find ways as to how we can attract our clients and let them take the specific purchases we need. This includes positivity toward work, and to say that there is no limit to your potential to do better than yesterday. And to be focus, not necessarily literally understood but to align every action of every day to be a part of the attaining of your goal. That is creativity. And with that you will succeed.

Enjoy Your Job

This energizes yourself and eliminates boredom. This does not necessarily mean enjoyment per se. But this means to find enjoyment and to be enjoyed with that enjoyment. That we need to say to ourselves that I enjoy this job regardless of what people would say about this and about me working on. It takes away the negative thoughts that is always keeping our mind set for failures. That is enjoying your job. And with that you will succeed.


Never Equate Your Salary to the Work that You Give

This is very common to the way we think about working; to receive the salary that would equate with our work or maybe our scholastic achievements. But one thing surprising this guy told me was these words; never equate your work to the salary to the work that you give. This would create frustrations, disappointments and boredom. This would exhibit negativity and a mindset of failure. Salary would never equate the work, regardless of how high that may be, because our basis for this is ourselves. Work without equating your salary. And with that you will succeed.


Burn the Bridges Behind You

When you say yes and accepted the job it simply means one thing, to burn the bridges behind you. There are no more turning backs and no more returns because you had already burnt the bridges behind you. Say goodbye to your old life and start anew. Empty yourself with doubts frustrations and negative thoughts for this will prevent you from attaining your goal. This may include people who might hinder you from achieving that goal; family, loved ones, and even your habits. Burn the bridges behind you. And with that you will succeed.

These four points is just a summary of the over one and a half hour of dizziness, inquisitive-listening-skills, and nerve wrecking tensions conversation over a cup of coffee with my 'big' boss. Kudos to you for this journey and for giving loads of insights to carry..!